Having a part-time slave should offer a Vanilla partner something she shouldn't and couldn't get through a normal relationship.That something depends on who she is, and it will be an extension of what she already enjoys. If she's a natural flirt, for example, it will be Teasing and Denial. If she likes being pampered, it's Service.
Once she's used to being in charge and getting what she wants, then she'll may be more comfortable throwing in your favourite kinks at the start of a session, and you're certainly in a better negotiating position than before!
All this only works if, when you do submit, you really submit. Here's how:
- Visualise what real slavery would be like
Use a historical example, like Roman Slavery, or a fantasy (but only as long as it's actual slavery, not an excuse for Fetish).
- Embrace Slavery
You are an object. You have no power, no control. There's nowhere to run, nowhere to hide. You are totally at your owner's mercy. Forget what she might or might not do - she will do as she pleases.
- Feel the delicious fear
You are as lost as if you were 2 miles underground wandering darkened caverns.
- Let go
You can't do anything about this. Accept it and just be.