Wednesday 22 August 2012

Part-time Femdom can be darker than FLR


Wife Led Marriages, FLR or 24/7/365 Femdom... I'm not personally a fan. But some people do want to replicate a reversal of old-fashioned marriage. The snag is that doing this doesn't automatically dish up a dose of unfettered Femdom. Here's Kathy at Femdom101:
There is a huge difference between the role of a dominatrix and the role of a mistress wife. For one thing a mistress wife generally cares about her husband, and wants him to have a life that is pleasing and worthwhile. Yes, she will expect obedience. Yes, she will assign her husband chores, and from time to time there will be punishment. However, there is no wife that I know of who has an all encompassing desire to work her husband to death or to make his life miserable. If anything, the mistress wife adopted femdom out of a need to be the best wife she could be for her man.
In other words, the Female Led Relationship has to be sustainable 24/7 practically, morally and emotionally. So, when a typical life-style sub looks at his partner, he sees somebody who basically cares about him.

Why a part-time Femdom relationship can go deeper and darker

Now a part-time Femdom relationship with your partner (of the kind I describe in my two femdom manuals) is a bit different.

It's still authentic - she's still in charge doing as she pleases in a space where her vanilla tastes and your fantasies intersect. However, it only has to be sustainable for a few hours or days at a time. This means there's no need for her to square the moral circle. She can do all the nurturing and caring whens he's being a wife or girlfriend. Right now, beyond physical safety, she is under no obligation to give a damn about your experience; slavery is an evil institution, and when she's enjoying it she's being evil or at least amoral.

The Femdom relationship has no reality outside this dark place. So, when a part-time sub looks at his part-time mistress, he sees only somebody to be feared or worshipped.

Can a "wife mistress" also be a Roman Dominatrix?

Actually, yes. The trick would be to establish a distinct mood or mode to distinguish the dark parts from the day-to-day female led relationship.

For more on being a Roman Dominatrix, try my book!

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