|A good proportion of male subs |
aren't really psychologically
submissive even though
they might honestly identify
This means that dommes can feel overwhelmed and also that if they chose there is no down side to being dismissive. Surrounded by needy men yelping "Pick me! Pick me!" it must be very tempting just to deliver irritated slap downs.
However, there's another thing going on as well.
A good proportion of male subs aren't really psychologically submissive even though they might honestly identify that way. (Sorry.)
To make matters worse, the high visibility of articulate and highly skilled prodommes sets all sorts of odd expectations for those men who haven't thought it through. It's the equivalent of agreeing to cook a meal with a friend but actually expecting a restaurant experience.
So, dommes end up experiencing a lot of flip-flopping confusing and flaky behaviour, some of it dishonest.
Which is why many of them have come to distrust male subs.
UPDATE Over on Reddit where I posted the first draft of this, adomme who posts as "adventureismycousin" said:
You know you're there for a Domme's pleasure. But out of a call for submissive men that I sent out earlier this year, and the 35 or so men who responded, only 0 of them were really submissive.Go look at the original thread: It's illuminating.
Zero. None. Not a one.
I spent time and energy vetting these guys, apologizing for tardiness to more than half (monogamous as a Domme because I get that invested in my boy), only to find out that I was just a fetish dispenser.
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