tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post7522923467751982654..comments2024-01-22T20:11:57.757+00:00Comments on How do I get my wife to dominate me?: Ferns: Trust works both waysGiles Englishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-33876323379082881632012-10-06T08:51:55.754+01:002012-10-06T08:51:55.754+01:00Don't forget this post, btw: http://becomehers...Don't forget this post, btw: http://becomeherslave.blogspot.co.uk/2012/04/why-she-wont-admit-to-enjoying-femdom.htmlGiles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-30450349208243166422012-10-06T08:48:10.798+01:002012-10-06T08:48:10.798+01:00Thanks - I may quote that in a post! And, of cours...Thanks - I may quote that in a post! And, of course, go ahead and quote from my blog (as long as you attribute, of course). <br /><br />I'm so glad you've found what I have to say useful. Remember -don't push her to admit how far she's come. It's the actions we need, not the validation.<br /><br />Have you got a copy of my book?Giles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-70970658945075025472012-10-06T04:11:00.270+01:002012-10-06T04:11:00.270+01:00Sorry, forgot to mention that I just quoted from m...Sorry, forgot to mention that I just quoted from my favorite post of yours into my blog. I hope that's okay.vs-boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04715617491485385267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-10328838269010537802012-10-06T03:19:43.430+01:002012-10-06T03:19:43.430+01:00I just finished reading through your blog and foun...I just finished reading through your blog and found it very instructive. In your pages I discovered logical explanations of why my wife (who is very vanilla, bu the way) has started to enjoy things that would consider evil before and why I became much more succesful when I decided that what I called submission 'lite' was better than no submission at all. I realize now that when I stopped playing the whinny sub all the time, my wife felt more confident in being dominant in our private space. vs-boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04715617491485385267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-32485749862813362092012-10-05T14:33:36.586+01:002012-10-05T14:33:36.586+01:00The interesting thing is that this should hold tru...The interesting thing is that this should hold true for vanilla dominants as well; there's plenty of evidence that when people enjoy authority without moral or social consequences, they can quickly drift towards selfish and sadistic behavior. A terrible thing in real life, but a wonderful thing if it happens in the Femdom corner of a relationship.<br /><br />(Hi Ferns - Nice to see you in my comments thread, by the way! )Giles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-57024828753399757582012-10-05T12:55:15.062+01:002012-10-05T12:55:15.062+01:00"The wise, dominant and articulate Ferns says..."The wise, dominant and articulate Ferns says (among other things)..."<br /><br /><i>*smile*</i> Thank you for the lovely compliment!<br /><br />"... the dominant has to trust the submissive to actually - guess what? - submit, and also trust them to provide safety feedback (emotional and physical) when required."<br /><br />Yes. It seems so obvious doesn't it? And when you *do* trust that he will do that, *then* you can go harder, *then* you can push and *then* you can skip around the edges. <br /><br />FernsFernshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08120135882551792775noreply@blogger.com