tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post7629409679622717177..comments2024-01-22T20:11:57.757+00:00Comments on How do I get my wife to dominate me?: Would you be a Roman sex slave for real? Are you THAT person?Giles Englishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-3244932109181680352015-04-12T22:32:50.052+01:002015-04-12T22:32:50.052+01:00LOL. I guess I should keep that in mind. I tend to...LOL. I guess I should keep that in mind. I tend to be kind of literal. <br /><br />No problem. Use whatever you like!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-11690473410763619232015-04-12T08:37:47.140+01:002015-04-12T08:37:47.140+01:00The Rome I wrote about is whatever Rome you end up...The Rome I wrote about is whatever Rome you end up in - that's the idea.<br />I'm so very pleased things worked out. Well done!<br /><br />(I plan to use your comments for a case study post, so please let me know if you'd prefer I didn't...)Giles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-56912836610695903272015-04-11T01:13:54.873+01:002015-04-11T01:13:54.873+01:00Review posted on Amazon. Cleaned up of course!
So...Review posted on Amazon. Cleaned up of course!<br /><br />So I took your advice. Talked it over with her, played the long game and it's paid off. She's been awesome and playful, really coming into her own. I've been really good with my promise to her and she's told me it's brought the passion back. Which in turn seems to have lit her furnace. I'm down to 10% of the orgasms I've had previously, while hers are way up. <br /><br />In the last couple weeks my "vanilla" wife revealed kinks to me that made me blush. I had no idea! She's planning a weekend away from the kids for us to explore Rome. It may not be the Rome you write about, but it definitely sounds like it's going to be one of those "be careful what you wish for" type of scenarios. I can't wait! <br /><br />Thanks again for the solid advice!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-29692942328729107082015-04-01T19:49:57.620+01:002015-04-01T19:49:57.620+01:00How frustrating and distressing for you! It is a h...How frustrating and distressing for you! It is a hard thing when your escapist fantasy no longer becomes somewhere you escape to. I've also experienced this.<br /><br />I'm afraid early on, the Roman Dominatrix book tells the lady reader that if her husband is making her read the book, to direct him to the Vanilla Dominatrix book!<br /><br />Some women - probably true of men as well - just won't read any kind of relationship how-to book. Most of them, though, are amenable to tailored suggestions. Has that train left?<br /><br />The way you describe it, she has a definite taste for Femdom. I doubt that will go away. I think - from what little you've told me - that you should probably have a proper conversation with her in calm circumstances.<br /><br />You could approach the FLR-tendencies she's shown by trying to establish some boundaries in terms of spheres and/or time, e.g. she's in charge in the bedroom or at the weekend, or for a week.<br /><br />Also, I'm embarrassed that there's something that I should have picked up on from your earlier postings: you did rather jump into something very FLRish: <br /><br />> I also informed her that I would no longer taking care of myself on my own, but that I would only seek pleasure in her company. <br /><br />I think that was a noble and romantic thing to do, and not necessarily a bad thing - I'm sitting here typing this wearing a chastity device! - but it wasn't very firewalled and it also potentially puts pressure on her to deliver your orgasms.<br /><br />Could you agree a rationing system for you? You'll have seen the one in our FLR contract. Something like that but simpler. <br /><br />Talk to her. It's worth getting through this!<br /><br />Giles<br /><br />PS I am overjoyed my book is an easy read. Some deep thoughts went into it, and I was desperate to make it accessible.<br /><br />PPS Last thought - this kind of thing is a long game. Stick to it.<br />Giles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-79311590483608301122015-04-01T13:16:47.988+01:002015-04-01T13:16:47.988+01:00I'm pretty sure I just ruined it. She still h...I'm pretty sure I just ruined it. She still hadn't read the book and was getting really pushy in ways that I wasn't prepared to go. Sure I have service as a fantasy and I thought Roma was the perfect solution. A way to escape to a fantasy. However, FLR is not something I'm prepared to do. <br /><br />I kept it all to myself, but I started feeling hurt that it's been a month and she still couldn't be bothered to read your book. No offense, but it's a pretty easy read. She noticed and pressed to know what was wrong. I tried to delicately explain that I was hurt she hadn't bothered to read the book. She accused me of topping from the bottom and ruining it again. I disagree, I feel like it's a mutual respect issue. <br /><br />Add on top of that I'm feeling pretty moody due fact that I'm being good and only having pleasure in her presence (days 4 and 5 seem to be tough). I'm starting to really doubt the long term efficacy of this whole thing. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-72426757420161826392015-03-30T23:41:43.611+01:002015-03-30T23:41:43.611+01:00Amazon if you can. Otherwise goodreads. Oh, and te...Amazon if you can. Otherwise goodreads. Oh, and telling people on forums when the topic comes up.<br />Don't go overboard on the review. Just paste in some of the wonderful comments you've made!<br /><br />As for going too fast -- the only thing I'd worry about is that she may feel pressured to keep up the pace. You might want to suggest some quiet non-sexual service...Giles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-2203261504730998912015-03-28T14:12:04.048+00:002015-03-28T14:12:04.048+00:00Absolutely! Do you have a preference?
I have to ...Absolutely! Do you have a preference? <br /><br />I have to add that your discussion of the Servus and the mind frame required is what really hit home for me and I think what ultimately did it for her as I put it in practice. Once she realized that she could be completely self indulgent it was like setting off a powder keg.<br /><br />What was really interesting to me is that while I considered myself the kinky one, it turns out I completely misjudged her. It wasn't that she didn't have kinks, she didn't like all the bs fetish fantasy that typically comes with the male fantasy. She also didn't think it was safe to share her kinks (I've made a lot of mistakes in our marriage).<br /><br />She revealed all sorts of exciting things she plans to do to me that had knees buckling. After last night, she woke me up by stroking me and having me take care of her again! AND she says be prepared for another rough night. :)<br /><br />Alarm bells are going off in my head. Is this too fast? I don't want to ruin it, after all we still haven't even made it to Roma, but then again, I don't want to try to exert any control and consequently ruin as well. I think the answer is, as I've answered every question to myself along this journey is "What would a Servus do?"<br /><br />I am forever in your debt!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-68712829717875032752015-03-28T13:25:54.604+00:002015-03-28T13:25:54.604+00:00Thanks! You made my day!
Is there any chance you ...Thanks! You made my day! <br />Is there any chance you could post that review somewhere - goodreads, perhaps? Or amazon?Giles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-68325711417904086332015-03-28T13:05:35.974+00:002015-03-28T13:05:35.974+00:00Quick update. I bought your books in early march a...Quick update. I bought your books in early march and gave her the Roman Dominatrix with a simple request to read it at her leisure, no pressure. I also informed her that I would no longer taking care of myself on my own, but that I would only seek pleasure in her company. No chastity, no kink, just a simple pledge from a husband to a wife. She was very supportive, however she didn't read your book. A week went by, I was beside myself with want. I felt like a horny teenager again. We had amazing sex for the first time in years. I kept all my fantasies/kinks/request to read your book on lock down. <br /><br />Two more weeks passed. I remained good to my word. I've never gone that long in my life. I didn't bring up the book. I kind of felt like I was being tested. Like she was waiting for me to get moody, pushy or overly demanding. I stayed true and dealt with it as you describe a Servus should. Then Saturday morning she reveals to me that she's been doing some reading. Needless to say my heart skipped a beat. Light teasing ensued and she started teasing me/flirting with me throughout the day. After amazing sex again the following morning she remarked that I may be in big trouble. (Still no formal trip to Rome).<br /><br />Throughout this past week she's been on a tear. She's starting to come into her own. Touching me, teasing me throughout the day and evenings. I still kept all my past issues/kinks/etc in check.<br /><br />Then last night the dam broke. This woman who I love turned into a force of nature. I've never seen anything like it. None of my wildest fantasies hold up to what that woman had me do/did to me. I can only describe it as something akin to the "Darling Nikki" song. It still wasn't a formalized trip to Rome. She informs me that it's coming and that I should be wary because I've created a monster. Frankly I am a little nervous after last night. But I wouldn't have it any other way.<br /><br />Thank you!<br /><br />PS You don't charge enough for that book :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-58424421884830925582015-03-08T17:25:02.427+00:002015-03-08T17:25:02.427+00:00Will do. Looking forward to it!Will do. Looking forward to it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-80164100692226081362015-03-08T13:28:25.956+00:002015-03-08T13:28:25.956+00:00Thanks!
Please consider putting a review up on Go...Thanks!<br /><br />Please consider putting a review up on Goodreads or Amazon, or at least sharing the link when the topic comes up on forums.<br /><br />Regarding extended chastity -- this deserves a blog post. Watch this space.Giles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-76766741550780608202015-03-07T15:45:03.103+00:002015-03-07T15:45:03.103+00:00Ha. There I go again. So what happens in Rome stay...Ha. There I go again. So what happens in Rome stays in Rome. <br /><br />I bought both books. Getting Her to be a Vanilla Dominatrix was good, pointed out a lot of things I did wrong early in our relationship. However, The Roman Dominatrix is amazing. Creating that firewall and the psychological aspects of getting her to feel comfortable in the role were especially helpful. Looking forward to seeing how it all works out. Thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-51614061629520173302015-03-07T13:09:56.927+00:002015-03-07T13:09:56.927+00:00Thanks! Which of the two books?
> How does ext...Thanks! Which of the two books?<br /><br />> How does extended chastity work in Rome? <br /><br />It doesn't. At that point you are crossing over into having elements of a female led relationship. I'm planning to add a chapter at some point to cover this.Giles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-90535812561084397452015-03-05T21:03:50.807+00:002015-03-05T21:03:50.807+00:00Terrific and enlightening book. Quick question tho...Terrific and enlightening book. Quick question though: How does extended chastity work in Rome? If what happens in Rome stays in Rome, then shouldn't chastity also end at the boundaries? If it doesn't then how do you avoid the traps the ruin the whole experience for the Vanilla Domina?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com