tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post8475533983815726276..comments2024-01-22T20:11:57.757+00:00Comments on How do I get my wife to dominate me?: Is it worth looking for the origins of a man's Femdom fantasies?Giles Englishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-30559553114046920802012-05-11T09:02:50.730+01:002012-05-11T09:02:50.730+01:00Yes, but we're only trying to get our BDSM goo...Yes, but we're only trying to get our BDSM goodness, not "fix" anything.Giles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-24303540751829845382011-11-07T00:51:22.885+00:002011-11-07T00:51:22.885+00:00Hi Giles,
Glad to see that my comments are now ma...Hi Giles,<br /> Glad to see that my comments are now making it through to your blog. I'll look forward to reading your blog in the future.<br /><br />GeorgeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-91196483652221768872011-11-01T01:15:34.468+00:002011-11-01T01:15:34.468+00:00Now you've gone and done it, Giles. Just thin...Now you've gone and done it, Giles. Just think how many psychiatrists you've pissed off by saying:<br /><br />"I mean that the "now" matters more than the "why" or the "how (did he get to here)". <br /><br />Freud and Jung are turning over in their graves:)Lady Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10795130564028111447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-83703028921766048932011-10-31T23:21:36.012+00:002011-10-31T23:21:36.012+00:00Rather, I've failed to make my point!
I mean ...Rather, I've failed to make my point!<br /><br />I mean that the "now" matters more than the "why" or the "how (did he get to here)". <br /><br />Another sub might have started with slavery fantasies and ended up being more interested in T&D.Giles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-636332123034088152011-10-31T20:52:50.650+00:002011-10-31T20:52:50.650+00:00Giles - Correct me if I'm wrong, but you seem ...Giles - Correct me if I'm wrong, but you seem to be saying that in the chronological evolution of the Femdom fantasy from a male's point of view -from adolescence to manhood - there comes a point where the original fantasies are superseded by the actual reality of the (hopefully) realized Femdom relationship. Thus, the ability of the male to fetishize the jogging pants in your example, and to be satisfied with that. Okay, I get it.<br /><br />Where you lose me is when you answer your own question....."Does the history of his Femdom fantasies matter?"<br /><br />with<br /><br />"I don't think so. It's simply not useful. For example, the man who was a boy in this tale wouldn't be particularly interested in playing bondage games, unless they obviously excited his partner."<br /><br />That one gave me pause, as it just seems to me that he would still be very interested in playing bondage games, or any other games that were there as an adolescent. He has simply had to compromise when faced with his adult reality. What he really wants and what he's really getting are now two different things, not because he wants it that way, but because that's what he's going to have to accept. <br /><br />I don't think that negates his earlier leanings, it just forces those leanings to take a back seat. Yes, they're not doing him much good, but wouldn't you say that those leanings would leap to the fore if given a chance? How can you say that he wouldn't be interested in playing those games? Or am I missing your point?Lady Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10795130564028111447noreply@blogger.com