tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post8839414814662300467..comments2024-01-22T20:11:57.757+00:00Comments on How do I get my wife to dominate me?: Why Male Subs Are Crap 1: Transactional Analysis and Femdom StylesGiles Englishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-34467077937900062652016-11-08T12:22:13.436+00:002016-11-08T12:22:13.436+00:00Thought provoking!
My impression of (ethical) pro...Thought provoking!<br /><br />My impression of (ethical) pro dommes is that they would take the C-P approach and shift it to A-A for negotiations. The important thing, here, is that C-P would not be a disastrous approach for the sub.<br />Giles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-8032606501325991562016-11-08T12:19:59.853+00:002016-11-08T12:19:59.853+00:00Thanks! I'm honoured! Your own blog is always ...Thanks! I'm honoured! Your own blog is always so articulate and thoughtful. I was also worried this article was too long and technical.Giles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-35569396099947054462016-11-08T12:07:48.209+00:002016-11-08T12:07:48.209+00:00(P.S. Did not suggest that I "neglected"...(P.S. Did not suggest that I "neglected" reading it the first time. I just meant that when I seriously consider anything, I read it more than once over a time period. Thanks. )Miss Margohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09738133130130308032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-68205466863495965362016-11-08T12:05:51.845+00:002016-11-08T12:05:51.845+00:00Thought-provoking article. Thanks for writing it....Thought-provoking article. Thanks for writing it. I'll revisit it later. Miss Margohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09738133130130308032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1926558375998557812.post-20602836990819705502016-11-08T11:54:34.903+00:002016-11-08T11:54:34.903+00:00Hi, you make some great points here (especially ab...Hi, you make some great points here (especially about the fetish-dispenser-machine approach of many male subs) and I like the idea of using TA for those various interactions - especially in the last section when you illustrate TA with examples from your own relationship. <br /><br />I do think that an exchange with a pro starts very much with a adult-adult transaction (some professional dominant sex workers actually specify that the initial negotiation is NOT part of the fantasy and shouldn't imply any power dynamic) and only later moves on to more of a parent-child transaction. <br /><br />While ideally, a play exchange that doesn't involve paid-for service provision starts with an adult-adult negotiation to them move to a child-child interaction of the play? And occasionally, if people get on immediately and want to take risks, the adult-adult part gets curtailed into almost non-existence? <br /><br />And finally, if the play develops into a more complex, full relationship, then the variety of interactions grows too as do the demands of life. <br /><br />The biggest danger of FLR is perhaps settling into a parent-child situation, not just with the Kink Fairy bit but a caretaking one, especially as women are predominantly socialised to caretake and for many dominants caretaking is already a strong drive. ALL THAT WE'VE MADEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07619019853037126332noreply@blogger.com