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My once-vanilla wife loves keeping me as her chaste slave. Find out how we ended up in a Female Led Relationship!

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Monday, 28 July 2014

Permanently chaste! (Sort of)

Today, Monday morning, I'm sitting here sealed into a metal Chinese chastity device.

No key.

No padlock.

Just a blob of robust plastic riveting it closed.

Permanent chastity lite.

It feels awesome, not least because I did this with Xena's enthusiastic approval. Here's what happened.

...lovely legs
Rewind back to Sunday night.

I'm dressed only in a long T-shirt and chastity device, rubbing Xena's feet and lovely legs and getting hard inside my Holy Trainer 2 and suddenly there's a... loosening in my groin.

It's the start of our 6 day lock up "marathon". I'm now used to long periods of chastity, but for practical reasons I don't usually get to stay continuously locked up. So this is a treat. Even more so because for the first time she's taken responsibility for the key.

"What's wrong," says Xena, looking up from her book.

"That damn thing's broken," I say.

"What? Again?"

She sounds sympathetic and annoyed herself, but she doesn't make a fuss. She trusts me to go sort things out.

I dig out my bag of BDSM from the back of the wardrobe and flee to the kitchen. I'd previously glued the older broken tube using epoxy resin so I give this one a go. It repair simply breaks. That takes me back to my old Chinese chastity device.

I stare at the thing and my heart drops. After the sleek sensuality of the Holy Trainer, I can't face the clunky padlock and that damn post that sticks into my naval whatever I do. Then I have this idea. I hurry back to Xena.

"Can I offer you options?"

"Go on."

"I'm going to have to wear my old device. I can either lock it on with this padlock and give you the key... or..." My mouth goes dry. She's going to say no. It'll be too much fuss and weirdness. "I could take a blob of this thermoplastic I have... It's solid when cold but like putty when at 60 degrees and..."

Here eyes light up and she grins broadly. "That sounds good."

It's like a cold hand grips my genitals. She hasn't even heard the full explanation and she's saying yes. It's as if she's thought about this. I tell her that getting out will require a hairdryer, wet towels and an hour or so of privacy - not a trivial thing. She checks I don't expect her to be involved then says matter-of-factly, "OK. Go on then."

Polymorph plastic - handy for
making and fixing sex toys 
So now I'm rushing around the house looking for my pot of Polymorph plastic (aka "Friendly Plastic" left over from my DIY chastity belt days.

There's a lump left in the bottom so I dump it in hot water, roll a small piece into a rod the thickness of the rivet. Then with total calmness I get into the device, push the rod through the pinhole and squish it around the post.

Five minutes later I am sealed into my chastity device. There's now no way out except using tools.

It feels permanent.

I hurry back to Xena, who's reading. "Do you want to see my handiwork?"

"Not right now," she says, as if virtually emasculating her husband was normal. "Put my socks on, my feet are cold."

So I fish out her bed socks, tuck her feet under the duvet and - still naked below my T-shirt - go and kneel in the corner.

The metal device is not as comfortable as the Holy Trainer and I reach down to adjust it.

It's then it hits me.

Xena, meanwhile, just reads her book.
No lock. No key hole. I'm really sealed in.

My cock goes off like an airbag. It's all I can do not to groan and play with my nipples.

Xena, meanwhile, just reads her book. 45 minutes later she berates me for not warning her of the time. It's almost as if my "permanent" chastity makes it even easier for her to treat me as a slave.

Later in the dark as we curl up together, I say, "I'm sorry the key I gave you doesn't work any more."

"Oh," she says, honey in her voice. "I think I'll cope. It'll be amusing."


She yawns. "Because you won't be able to get out."

I lie there horribly turned on and I remember a dream I had just when we were starting down this path:
Xena and I were in a modern hospital waiting room. Everything was clean and white. She was being affectionate but matter-of-fact. I was feeling supremely calm. I was there to be fitted with some kind of permanent chastity implant.
I also think about how Xena wasn't interested in any sort of grand finale at the end of my 150 day chastity stint - I had to bring myself off in private the following morning.

Though as a wife and partner, she enjoys making me come, with her mistress hat on, she's just not interested in my orgasm. Long term chastity is not about its cumulative effect on me, just her ability to neuter me.

That thought, dear reader, gets me even harder inside my sealed up semi-permanent chastity device.

EDIT: I worked out how to sort of repair my Holy Trainer 2, so end up breaking the seal. It took 45 minutes of careful use of a hairdryer, wet flannels and - eep! - a craft clipper. Not ever going to be a routine task that!

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Sunday, 27 July 2014

6 days in the Holy Trainer 2

I don't normally do long lockups. Partly, my life is too busy and there are too many situations when wearing a chastity device would be icky. Mainly, though, it's because since Xena has taken control of my orgasms the actual device seems less important.

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Even so, we have a quiet week ahead of us and my usual jogging partners are away over the summer, so I'm locked up until lunch with friends on Saturday. I'll try to live as usual, including exercise etc. I wonder whether any problems will arise...

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Wednesday, 23 July 2014

The Holy Trainer 2 and morning wood

Morning wood is the bane of a chaste male's existence!

...sometimes we have a morning erection
because we wake up next to a hot lady in a
bed reeking of well-licked pussy.
Unless you're in an actual chastity belt, you have a good chance of waking up with your chastity device clinging pathetically to the head of your erect cock while your base ring stretches your testicles up along the shaft. Worse, if your device is a cage format with narrow bars it feels as if your cock is being forced through a cheese slicer.

We can lubricate our balls so that the base ring slides without chafing. However that doesn't fix the other problems. We can wake to pee during the night, relieving bladder pressure and thus preventing the erection, but that's not always possible. Also sometimes we have a morning erection because we wake up next to a hot lady in a bed reeking of well-licked pussy.

The thing is, morning wood is still just an erection. True, it's a powerful erection, but we experience these with our partners and don't usually run into the same problems.

It follows that the real issue is not the erection itself, but the fact we've been asleep with the chastity device slowly slipping down our balls.

I realized this when a manufacturing fault in my HT2 resulted in me back in my old Chinese chastity device. I'd forced a silicone tube over the entire base ring making it more comfortable, but also reducing its size by a few millimeters. Imagine my mixed feelings when I woke with a powerful morning hard-on neatly encased in my cheap metal cage.

I ordered up a smaller base ring  for my Holy Trainer 2 and -- surprise surprise -- morning wood isn't a problem anymore. At worst, a centimeter of shaft bares itself, and often it doesn't and I get to wake up with a black plastic tube where my cock should be.

The trick is to go easy on the lubricant or don't use any at all. On me at least, the Holy Trainer base ring grips effectively enough that the extra pressure doesn't hurt the scrotum.

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Sunday, 20 July 2014

Chaste again...

I want Xena to own the FLR not
just acquiesce to it
We've had a brief break from FLR and chastity while visiting relatives.

Theoretically, our agreement expired a couple of weeks ago when I was allowed to come after 151 days of chastity.

However, on our last night away Xena said something about me soon getting reacquainted with rubbing her feet and other things so I've preemptively considered myself chaste since Friday night.

Whether I spend tonight in my Holy trainer 2 remains to be seen.

If we're picking up from where we left off, then I want Xena to own the FLR not just acquiesce to it.

Friday, 27 June 2014

Getting the right Holy trainer 2 ring size!

I was an idiot.

My old cheap Chinese chastity cage had a 45mm diameter ring so I assumed that's what I needed from Holy Trainer. I didn't bother following their sizing instructions.

Holy Trainer 2 rings are... oval
Months later a short stint back in the old device,  I realized I needed something tighter. I compared the two rings and found -- to my horror -- that the ring of the old device fitted into the new one. What was going on?

The answer, of course, is that the Holy Trainer 2 rings are... oval. The measurement they use to describe them is across the shortest distance!

On its own the circumference doesn't tell us much, it's the cross section that matters.

You can get the area of an oval using the following calculation:

Area = Pi * A * B

Assuming all the Holy Trainer rings have the same proportions as my original 45mm HT2 ring, you get the following areas:

040 - 1396 mm squared
045 - 1766 mm squared
045 - 2181 mm squared

Old style circular rings like on my Chinese chastity cage are of course Pi * R * R. This gives us:

40mm - 1256 mm squared 
45mm - 1590 mm squared 
50mm - 1963 mm squared 

They are all a bit tighter than the Holy Trainer equivalent. The take home here is follow the manufacturer's instructions and measure your tackle with a bit of string!

However I can tell you from personal experience that a 45mm circular ring fits me comfortably and that my most comfortable Holy Trainer 2 ring is the 040. Your mileage may vary...

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Wednesday, 18 June 2014

When is it OK to wear a chastity device outside the home?

I don't usually wear my Holy Trainer 2 24/7, it just doesn't feel right to deliberately set out to see friends with a chastity device locked around my genitals. However, I'm not squeamish about going out and about in my device.

So -- whoops! -- I'm inconsistent.

I think the problem is that my chastity device is both sexy underwear and at the same time a sex toy.

Sexy underwear is a private thing and can often be a private rebellion. We're delighted rather than disturbed to know that the frumpy lady in accounts likes wearing frilly nothings to work, and if a man chooses to wear a good pair of boxers or a jockstrap under his jeans that's his business, not anybody else's, except perhaps his partner... in fact there's nothing freaky about the statement, "I wear sexy underwear for my partner."

So my little black Holy Trainer is just the moral equivalent of  a sexy jockstrap and I can wear it when and where the hell I like.

However, it's also a sex toy.

A male chastity device is not quite the equivalent of -- say -- a woman using Chinese Balls because it doesn't generate erotic physical sensations unless I'm already turned on. However wearing it feels sexual and reminds me of my Female Led Relationship with Xena. We might regard a woman who inserted Chinese Balls and went shopping as daring and erotic, but if she then went into a friend's home for a cup of tea that would be icky. It's also important that other people would regard a chastity device as a sex toy.

So, I end up with an odd code based on a mix of practicality (worst case if caught out) and gut feeling:
  • I absolutely avoid wearing around non-adults or relatives (sex toy).
  • I avoid going into somebody's home while wearing (sex toy).
  • I will socialize while wearing, but only (a) in public spaces, (b) when I can't unlock, (c)  and when I'm not responsible for the event (sexy underwear).

This last one needs further explanation.

I'm uncomfortable with any suggestion that I might be treating other people as players in an erotic scenario. So I won't set up coffee with friends and turn up secretly wearing a chastity device. However, if I'm out shopping and bump into friends then I will go to Starbucks with them. Similarly, if I'm wearing the device for an extended period -- say a weekend -- and Xena wants me to attend her at a social event, then I'll go along too.

Of course, in an ideal world none of this thinking would be necessary. Chastized would be a recognized and legally protected orientation...