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| Femdom long predates Feminism |
Being a male sub doesn't automatically make you a feminist. There are plenty of pushy self-entitled subs, and Femdom long predates Feminism: Victorian gents who paid for female domination did not rush out to throw bricks with the Suffragettes (though I am sure they masturbated over fantasies involving them).
Nor is Femdom the natural end point of Feminism. Feminism is about equality and freedom of choice. Wanting women to be in charge of society is to be a Female Supremacist, not a Feminist.
Even so, I think Feminism and Femdom are good for each other.
Why Feminism is good for Femdom
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| ...a would-be domme would need to learn new unladylike behaviour. |
Feminism says it's OK for women to take charge in the world, be assertive in a relationship, seek pleasure in bed, and be forthright about all that.
In the once-upon-a-time of subtle manipulation, feminine wiles and coy hints, a would-be domme would need to learn new unladylike behaviour just to achieve a baseline of dominance. Nowadays she merely has to temporarily stop being polite and fair, to transition from "Please go down on me and I'll give you a blow job" to "Go down on me".
So Feminism may not generate dommes, but it does make it easier for women to develop or express a dominant streak.
Feminism also says it's OK for men not to be strong, and for us to be facilitating in a relationship, and giving in bed. The male sub of yesteryear had to cope not only with the shame of being unmanly, but also with his wife's horror (if she found out). Now he merely has to turn the conversation to shared fantasies or suggest kinky activities to "spice things up".
Of course Feminism does not turn men into subs! However, it does give those of us with a submissive streak a much easier ride.
Feminism says, "Pick your own roles, be yourselves" and that makes it easier for us Femdom people to do just that.
Why Femdom is good for Feminism
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| Being in charge can only be empowering |
All that said, I think Femdom can have a feminist effect within a relationship and thus the existence of Femdom is good for Feminism.
Being in charge, even if just for bedroom roleplay, can only be empowering. Despite improvements, we still have casual and structural sexism, and the remnants of patriarchy. Exploring a sexually dominant role must have the same benefits for a woman's confidence and assertiveness as would taking a leadership position in, say, a sports club or charitable organisation.
The existence of dommes as an extreme example also potentially makes it easier for vanilla women just to ask for what they want in bed, or in a relationship, and thus become more empowered in general. Dominatrices demonstrate that women can take charge and the world doesn't end!
And, anything that empowers women in the personal sphere also helps to empower them in the wider world, which is good for the Feminist cause in general.
So, it's not like political lesbianism (though the idea of "Political Femdomism" as a college movement is... exciting). However, in a small way I think Femdom helps the Feminist cause.
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