|...looking back -- I persuaded an inordinate |
proportion of my girlfriends to do Femdom
Even so -- looking back -- I persuaded an inordinate proportion of my girlfriends to do Femdom.
I can recall in detail ten girlfriends before Xena. (If you recall, 70% of my past girlfriends didn't really need my penis, and 40% didn't really want it.)
- My first, I never asked. We had some oblique conversations about fantasies. I suspect she wanted me to tie her up.
- One flat out refused to do it.
- One did it a couple of times but wasn't that interested.
- One did it, really enjoyed it, but was uncomfortable with the idea of "having that kind of power".
- Two did it, really enjoyed it, and cheerfully initiated it again.
- Three enjoyed tying me up whenever I asked -- either it was fine as part of their sexual repertoire, or else they really enjoyed it but needed permission.
- One dommed me once, was pretty incredible -- actually a bit scary -- but I spoiled it by topping from the bottom.
|...my kind of girls; strong, adventurous, |
Had I been more focused on what's in it for her?, the girl that wasn't interested might have enjoyed other Femdom activities, and the one who was good at it would have had an opportunity to explore her own desires rather than mine.
|The trick was... wait for it... Just Ask |
(but without making a fuss).
So go look for play partners in the Scene if you want, but don't give up on the idea of dating within the vanilla world!
EDIT: Interesting Reddit threads here , here and here.
Don't resign yourself to just getting off on other people's adventures! When we started out, my wife was vanilla. Use my manuals to help you walk the same Femdom path! There's one for him, and one for her.