Wednesday, 27 April 2016

How to Feel Good about your Femdom Fetish

It is pretty much impossible to change
your orientation 
From time to time, men turn up on Reddit asking how to lose their Femdom fetish or submissive orientation.

It is, of course, pretty much impossible to change your orientation like that. It is far easier to feel good about your kink and let it enrich your life.

For a start, you are not remotely alone.

You are part of a large minority that just happens to be invisible!

Femdom fantasies are incredibly common and the statistics slowly emerging show that a lot of kink goes on in people's lives behind closed doors.

If you look at the Irish Times(!) sex survey, a significant minority of people have done BDSM, with the percentage going up as they get younger. A recent Prague study also indicated that something like a quarter of couples are female led (though not necessarily in a kinky way). Finally a Canadian sex survey showed nearly half of men to have Femdom fantasies (and just under half of women).

You are also not damaged goods doomed to be alone.

All the modern evidence suggests that your BDSM orientation is largely unaffected by early life experience. If you read Gloria Brame's Different Loving Too, you'll also see that Femdom - and D/s in general - is also completely compatible with living an otherwise normal life and with being as dominant as you want outside the bedroom. That's my experience too. And those surveys strongly suggest that there are women out there who will play with you, if only you go looking.

Finally, kink makes you feel socially indestructible! Nothing that can happen at work, for example, can be as humiliating as what your domme might do to you on a regular basis...
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Monday, 25 April 2016

Xena crosses another FLR line and sentences me to five additional days without orgasm

"And you can add five penalty days." 

"And you can add five penalty days," says Xena as she gets ready for work.

"What?" I blurt. "But I already have ten."

A penalty day defers my orgasm by a working day, so now I suddenly have three whole weeks to survive without coming -- this after a spectacularly sexy romantic weekend (which I promise to blog about) preceded by a couple of orgasm free weeks.

All that whirls through my head and my cock inflates in its cage... the cage I haven't removed for five days.

"That seems to be the only way to get you to take me seriously," says Xena.

She's not... abusing her power. I blew up over domestic stuff... lost my temper Basil Faulty style, and she hates it when I do that and we have this contract so...

And right then, it didn't feel like a game to either of us.

Fifteen days is far far longer than I would volunteer for. I mean it turns me on that she can do that to me, but -- bloody hell -- I don't want to live through it.

And my wife not only knows it, she knows I will obey her -- maybe it's because of the cage.

"Oh," says Xena. "It goes up by 50% each time. So next time it will be 7.5 penalty days." As she leaves for work, she adds, "And I want a clean kitchen when I get home."

This happened before with demerits - something clicked and she started using them when she was genuinely angry. Now it's happening with penalty days.

It is both terrifying and a turn on and...

Most of all it's validation. I think most submissives are afraid of finding out they are really doing it on their own and that their partner is merely going through the motions to humour them.

But not this morning. There was no humour this morning.


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Saturday, 16 April 2016

Four more days in my Custom Chastity customized Ghost

I seem to have slipped into another chastity "marathon". Or perhaps this is business as usual now... we'll see.

A few months ago, we established a routine. Every night, I'm not allowed to leave my corner until Xena has handed out demerits and penalty days. This means I'm not put in the "meta" position of nagging her for discipline.

Now we've proven I can wear my new chastity device 24/7, we've added another item to the check list: tomorrow's "locked" status. Last night Xena came in from a girl's night out and fell asleep almost instantly, so I remained locked by default.

So that's four nights and as many days (counting today). I've jogged and showered, gone shopping and socialised as normal. I even used the urinal in a coffee shop - it's safe enough if there's nobody to see when you get lined up, and if you use one corner.

I started my last marathon with an abrasion that then refused to fully heal while wearing 24/7 - the contact kept disrupting the scab.

This time, I went in with healthy skin and fine after four days. The only issue I did have was when the scrotum in contact with the underside of the tube got a bit pink and raw looking - the effect of skipping a shower. When I did shower and dry properly, the problem went away. So the rule is, keep clean!

The Ghost stays put and doesn't shift around. There's also no problem with morning wood - actually I've been wearing every night for over a month and had no problem with it. Peeing is easy as long as I take a moment to get lined up. The device is invisible under my clothes, especially using the cable tie so there's no padlock bump. It's also supremely light; an exoskeleton rather than a second skin.

Lady Fox has recently quit her day job to devote herself to making a proper business out of Custom Chastity. I have a feeling she's going to be busy...


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Thursday, 7 April 2016

5 Reasons Why Online BDSM Advice is often Confusing

The Internet is a great resource for information and advice on BDSM. However,
  1. People have made a hobby of BDSM and may often overthink it.
  2. People like to show off their knowledge, the more complex the better.
  3. People like to belong to a tribe with its own language and traditions.
  4. People like to have their own choices confirmed.
  5. People see BDSM through the lens of identity politics.

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