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When it is OK to wear your
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Male chastity is in the mainstream media, but not in the way we'd want...
"Surgeon sent naked pictures of himself to dominatrix from work and boasted of wearing chastity belt as he operated on patients"
Daily MailD
I take the story with a pinch of salt.
He seems to have taken chastity selfies at work, but not necessarily in the operating theatre. He was obviously enjoying the services of an internet dominatrix, but just because he seems to have said the device was distracting
to her, doesn't mean it was in reality. We simply don't know the truth.
However,
I do often wear my chastity device 24/7 and this case has set me thinking about the ethics of it.
When it is OK to wear your chastity device?
What people know doesn't hurt them... unless it
actually hurts them. So can I suggest three cast iron rules:
Iron Rule #1: Do not wear your chastity device when it has a high chance of upseting the innocent.
No our fetish - or is it an orientation? - isn't radioactive, but it is like an erection: personal and sexual, and people have the right not to have their faces rubbed in it. Don't wear your device to a family nude beach. Don't flaunt it in the gym locker rooms - unless it's
that kind of gym. Don't... And so on.
(Yes, there is an argument that chastity is an orientation and that we have a right to be ourselves, but in the absence of a Male Chastity Liberation movement to educate the public, it seems needless and counter-productive to flaunt the tackle around our tackle.)
Iron Rule #2: Do not wear your chastity device if it will distract you in ways that are dangerous for you and others.
If wearing a chastity device is like wearing a vibrator would, then the rules are similar. You wouldn't drive with a vibrator attached to your dick, would you? So don't drive while chaste
if the device is stimulating you in some way. And if you are a surgeon, please don't operate on anybody in that state.
(Yes, OK, vanilla folk get distracted too - by a nice pair of legs, for example. However they don't set out to be distracted right out of the box, and nor should you. And yes, quite often wearing a chastity device is more like having a secret piercing, in which case this rule does not apply.)
Iron Rule #3: Do not wear your chastity device it it stops you being yourself.
If you can't routinely do something you should be doing while wearing the device, routinely remove the device for that activity.
I won't give the obvious examples of social and family obligations incompatible with chastity wear because I don't want to invite the wrong sort of search engine traffic. However, if - say - wrestling is part of your life, and you can't wrestle in your device, then remove the device for wrestling.
(Sure, it's OK to avoid an activity while enjoying an occasional chastity marathon, but we should hold onto the fact that chastity isn't the only or most important aspect of our authentic self.)
I think there's more to it than that because there's also the knotty problem of how we feel about how we treat other people, even when they don't know what we are doing. That's for another article...
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The elephant in the room of male chastity is that, without piercings, male chastity devices don't actually work. I mean, we can slip our dicks out the back if we really want. Yes, mostly we don't want. Even so, there's something nice for us about being securely locked, and our keyholders may appreciate the certainty. Trust is good, but it's nice not to have to.
