Here's how it breaks down:
- 9 days of denial
- 9 nights in chastity (maximum 5 consecutive)
- approx 170 hours of chastity (maximum 115 consecutive)
Prepare realistically for your male chastity experience
|The second device is the perfect fit.|
However I missed how the locking post would chafe my pubis - something I had to fix "in flight" using craft materials left over from my DIY CB days.
Know how to sleep in your device: Not only can't you function without sleep, broken nights will put your partner off the whole adventure.!
A few sleepovers, and some forum searching, taught me to wear tight briefs to support my steel-cased gonads.
However, I forgot to avoid spicy food and coffee, and my first night in chastity entailed endless toilet trips. Later I made contingency plans to sleep in another room.
|Be able to go out.|
I almost I did this. However, by the end of the final five day stretch, I had bad chafing. (A product called Sudocreme helped, but was hardly erotic!)
Be able to go out: During a long lockup, there's still shopping to do, cultural trips to make, a social life to maintain, and possibly work to go to.
This is why I shifted over to ball-gripping devices. I also thought through what I was prepared to do, and what would feel creepy.
Make your chastity marathon real
|Use a non-human keyholder.|
Use a non-human keyholder: Using Time lock self bondage software or the postal service takes the decision out of both your hands; there's no pressure on her, no temptation for the sub to wheedle. This certainly worked for us :)
Use the longest possible lock-in: The further away the next possible release date (as long as it is sensible!), the easier it is for both parties to accept the situation.
I discovered this when I hit the button to lock myself in for four days. Suddenly, I could sleep soundly.
Have realistic expectations of extended chastityA male chastity device isn't "fire and forget", nor is it magic. Wearing it requires some adaption of behavior, and it won't magically change your relationship.
Keep yourself clean: If you chafe, the adventure will become an ordeal. If you start to stink, she may bring the adventure to an abrupt end.
I showered regularly, and used a hairdryer to remove all moisture, in both operations carefully tugging the skin through the base ring. (I was pleased this didn't defeat my security fix.)
|You may be a walking horn, but most |
of the time she is not going to be in
an erotic head space
Xena was working hard during our two weeks. Two erotic episodes was actually a slight improvement on what I would normally have expected. However, at first I felt cross and cheated.
Don't expect her to be interested in your experience very often: Again, asymmetry rears its head. You may be a walking horn, but most of the time she is not going to be in an erotic head space.
I did my best to shut up about my experience, but it was hard.
Don't plan a finale of wild sex once you are unlocked: Sure, it seems like a great end to the experience - fuck like rabbits and use up all that trapped man-seed. There's two reasons why this might not work: first, though you've had a frustrating few days or weeks, she's probably had quite a satisfying one - she hasn't built up the same head of steam; second, an extended period of chastity may have left you chafed, sore, and bruised - your erection may not be impressive, and sex may be painful for you.
I timed my release for the afternoon after the last night of our Femdom sabbatical. I can't claim any special wisdom - I just wanted to extend the experience as long as possible. However, when I did unlock it was clear I was in no fit state for sex.
So lots of prep work, minimal partner engagement and no sex at the end - put like that extended chastity sounds pointless!
Actually, it was mind blowing.
The preparation meant I could relax and enjoy the experience, Xena's matter of fact acceptance of my chastity was - frankly - deliciously terrifying, and being helplessly tossed on waves of desire, mind blowing.
All the days of denial amplified the effect if the last night, when Xena gave me a very thorough beating...