Bluetooth Chastity Debacle! Is this Male Chastity's 50 Shades of Visibility Moment?

 

It's official, we made it to the BBC!

Qiui's Cellmate Chastity Cage is sold online for about $190 (£145) and is marketed as a way for owners to give a partner control over access to their body.

Pen Test Partners believe about 40,000 devices have been sold based on the number of IDs that have been granted by its Guangdong-based creator.

The cage wirelessly connects to a smartphone via a Bluetooth signal, which is used to trigger the device's lock-and-clamp mechanism.

But to achieve this, the software relies on sending commands to a computer server used by the manufacturer.

Not to mention The Sun and Techcrunch!

(By "we" I mean our chastity fetish; the real heroes are Pen Test Partners.)

Suddenly an awful lot of people are being made aware of this fetish. The effect will be... interesting.

Male chastity is an odd fetish that literally comes from nowhere. It's not like boots or stockings or cross-dressing - you can't point to an early sexual experience or fantasy and blame it on that. 

It's more like an evolutionary trap, something that pushes certain adaptive buttons in some people.

And what people? Take a look at this small sample of Cellmate users on a map from Pen Test Partners:

Rather more Chinese users than you'd expect, eh?

Also, the estimate of 40K users is illuminating.

Glancing at the map, that gives us about 12K users in the USA.

As of 10 years ago, the US had 60,000K men fit for military age.

That gives us 0.02% of American men own a Cellmate.

So what proportion of the entire chastity device market is the Cellmate? I think no more than 5%. 

If so, assuming the US is representative, that gives us roughly 0.5% of Western men have chastity device. 

1 in 200.

That's pretty stunning.

Is this going to be like when 50 Shades of Grey appeared? Back then, the BDSM clubs were suddenly inundated with novices, and kink entered the discourse. I wonder if chastity device makers are in for a sudden bonanza? 

UPDATE My friend Tall Chaste Guy used order serial numbers between two devices to guesstimate that Steelworxx sell 2K a year, which he thinks rather high for a "one man shop", but I think is doable in batches.

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Ask Giles: How do I prepare for Locktober?

Consider the following:

Have you got a device you can wear with no issues? Did you have any chafing or other problems after that week?

Check the device carefully for burrs and edges etc. If it's plastic, you can fix them with fine grade sandpaper or - carefully!!! - with a craft knife.
 

Do you have credible plans for staying clean and dry? A tube format chastity device makes that very hard.
 

Does being locked for 1 month present any problems for your lifestyle?

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Two Years of the Custom Chastity Saint (a nonstory with pictures)

We're coming up to two years of the Custom Chastity Saint.

It's transformed our already kinky relationship.

Here's an example.

I just completed nearly five and a half months of 24/7 chastity in my Custom Chastity "Saint". 

At the end of January, Xena allowed me an orgasm. Then I locked up and handed her the keys. She didn't give them back until the middle of July when we were about to go on a short beach holiday with some friends.

"Do I get an orgasm?"

"Perhaps after the holiday..."

So, just before we set off, I unlocked my device and stashed it in my luggage. When I inspected my suddenly-naked genitals, there were no chafe marks, no running sores, no blisters or infections.

And that was it.

If you are new to chastity, or have a good high-end device, that might sound like a nonstory.

However, if you are a male chastity veteran like me, or are struggling along with some clunky knockoff device you picked up off Amazon or Ebay, then you'll get that the nonstory is the story.

Here's what didn't happen:

• I didn't develop chafing or an infection and have to beg the key back.
• I didn't need to unlock to socialise or do sport.
• I didn't soldier on stoically suffering chafing and infections and quietly missing out on socialising  occasions and sport.
• During intimate time and discipline, I didn't need to ask to pause to adjusted a heavy cage, or un-turtle myself. 

This is a million miles from the experience of metal cages and standard sized tubes!

Obviously,  the Saint is much more physically pleasant to wear. It's either a sensual presence or no presence at all. However, it's the psychological and relationship effects that are truly stunning.

Psychologically, I know there will be no practical reason to remove the device. If Xena wasn't paranoid about visibility through swimwear, I could potentially stay locked for years on end. As it is, she once left me sealed in for 11 months.  The result is a delicious blend of security - locked means locked - and fear - she could do this to me forever.

Relationship-wise, it means Xena can control my chastity on whim. There's no emotional labour of second guessing me, no need to get into a more responsible head space to forward plan. She can lock me up, or seal me in, and it's a done deal until she changes her mind. It's true that we were already a kinky couple, but this has deepened her dominance. She is no longer wife and domme, with two different roles, she truly is my dominant wife.

So we got back from vacation. She soaked in the bath, I unpacked and ran the washing machine. I also took the opportunity to refresh the dye on my device (picture behind the cut).

That night I returned the key to Xena.

"I didn't get my orgasm."

"No you didn't. Now rub my feet, slave."

And I did. 

So, today I'm locked up and working on the sequel to Trapped in Chastity by a Pretty Goth and I don't know when my next orgasm will be...

(You can see my caged package behind the cut.)

Ask Giles: What do you do if you have a row or spat while in chastity?

There are two aspects to this:

First, dynamic:

Worship isn't the same as "idealise". Nobody is perfect. Worship involves loving a whole person, and doing it from a submissive posture.

And, if you are (mostly) submissive to her in your relationship, it's still an actual relationship. Even the archetypal 50s housewife would put her foot down, push back against manly hubby. It doesn't change the underlying dynamic. FLR type dynamics - we're on the 6th year of ours - aren't day-to-day the same as 24/7 High Protocol relationships.

My experience is that when you're submitting in the bedroom, i.e. doing actual BDSM, in the context of a relationship, it stops being a game. You're submitting to the person, imperfections and all, and that's both hot and spiritually fulfilling: you're cross with her but you still have to do as you're told as if she really owned you... (This is probably dangerous heresy to some people, but it's where the undertow takes me, and it feels great.)

Second, chastity:

I think there's really two styles of chastity: keyholding and "neutering lite", in other words one is about dynamic, the other is about something akin gender identity. If you're drawn to long term chastity, then there's probably a bit of the second kind going on.

By way of illustration (not saying they are equivalent), you wouldn't stop being gay or trans or whatever just because you had a row with your partner; in the same way you need not stop being chaste.