There are clues in my blog, but most of the important steps only turn out to be important looking back. Worse, Xena isn't big on talking about stuff like this!
Here's what I think happened..
Stage 1: The Femdom became 100% real and routine (leading up to two years ago)
|...she really was treating |
me as a slave.
Stage 2: Dead Bedroom except for Femdom (culminating about a year and a half ago)
|The Femdom "sex"...was doing fine|
I read the usual self help guides for married couples, some useful, some dry as dust. However nothing made much difference because she simply wasn't interested. Sometime during the next few stages I simply gave up; I had already found a cure for the Dead Bedroom.
Stage 3: Xena asks for Femdom to be the default intimacy (a year and a half ago ago)About a year ago, Xena asked -- in her round about way -- if we could stop having penetrative sex and stick to Femdom in the bedroom. I initially hedged, but ultimately agreed. The Femdom was so much more exciting than the depressing vanilla sex, and I would in any case trade my orgasms for hers.
Stage 4: A practical 24/7 male chastity device (a year and a half ago)
|...a cheap Chinese chastity device|
(See Part 2)
Dare you introduce some Female Centered Femdom to your relationship?