How to get your wife or girlfriend to dominate you - just ask!

Earlier I pointed out that subs are really very bad at following through - they ask to be sexually dominated, but then they don't produce the whips and the chains and say, "Is now a good moment for Femdom?"

However, some inexperienced subs are even worse. As Mistress Blaze puts it:

He is casually hinting around at the idea. Of course she won't take the bait

It's a repeat of that Nice Guy Dating Fail, where he hangs around loudly being her "Platonic friend" but all the time praying that he'll wear away her reistance and she'll just kind of drop into his lap.

Women don't work that way. Dating doesn't work that way.

Sex doesn't work that way.

Most of all; Kink doesn't work that way.

If you want her to dominate you, you have to ask for it directly. And then you have to follow through.

It's usually better to ask for something specific. Better yet, ask for a Femdom kink that fits who she is and extends her vanilla sexuallity.

My Femdom manual - The Vanilla Dominatrix or Getting Your Wife or Girlfriend
to Sexually Dominate You - goes into this in detail. However, if you're in a rush, try looking at the erotic things she does enjoy, and working out how bondage and devices and power exchange would make that better for her.